Month: September 2017

General conference questions

General conference questions

Today is general conference! Hooray! I’ve got some questions I’m pondering for which I’m going to listen for answers. Which of David Burns’ cognitive distortions are true? What more can I learn about the Word of Wisdom and how we can apply it to improve…

Family Power Preschool©

Family Power Preschool©

“What’s the most important thing children have? It’s their brains. But we are not caring for children’s brains the way we care for their bodies – especially in early childhood, when the science shows that children’s brains and children’s futures are rapidly being shaped. We…

We’ve Got a Friend in Him

We’ve Got a Friend in Him

Saw this today.

Love it.

So grateful our daughters have a friend in their dad!

So grateful we have a friend in our Heavenly Father!

Saturday Julia went to the temple to receive her endowment before she goes on her mission. Julia and I had both caught a bad cold a day or two before, and we were supposed to be at the temple at 6:30 am. I had a difficult night, so it was hard to wake up. I hadn’t felt well the day before and hadn’t gotten her new temple dress hemmed. I hurried and grabbed the names I had prepared to take with me, and then the Ziploc bag that they were in slipped between the car seat and middle console, and I didn’t realize I didn’t have them until it was too late to run back out to the parking lot to get them. We ate our slices of bread on the fly as we hurried off to the temple in the dark morning.

I felt tired, sick, and unprepared when we got there. I wasn’t unprepared in the important ways–Julia and I were both there, worthy, ready spiritually. But I was just not as well prepared as I wanted to be, with every i dotted and t crossed, so to speak, in the other, temporal details that I had tried to have ready. I had worked and prepared, but somethings just fell through.

But it didn’t matter.

We rented a dress for Julia, and I didn’t have to have the cards I had prepared. As the temple matron reminded us when we met with her later that morning, Heavenly Father always has a back-up plan to help us. We felt Heavenly Father’s calming Spirit the whole time. His love. His comfort. His reassurance of eternal things that matter and temporal things that don’t. Words can’t describe the peace and happiness and being filled spiritually that I felt.

It is like Sister Neill A. Marriott said later that night at the general women’s meeting that we watched all together (as mothers and daughters),

Some things matter; some things don’t.

A few things last, but most things won’t.5

The most wonderful part of that morning was that along with Lane being there, my mom, Sarah, Nate and Hunter were there. Once a long time ago at my sister-in-law’s temple wedding, all of Lane’s siblings and their spouses and his parents were all there, together in a circle. I felt so much longing for that same sweet experience to happen for my own family. And now it is beginning! It is such a tendermercy. My mind went back to my mission, when I went to the temple for the first time the day before I entered the MTC. I felt so overwhelmed with what lay ahead. I couldn’t have ever imagined my life now! But there I was, in the temple, with my husband, my mother, and four of our children (which includes our newest daughter-in-law!). It is the best gift my Heavenly Father could even have given me, including each of those family members, who have prepared themselves and made covenants with Heavenly Father so they could be there.

I am so grateful for Heavenly Father, that He is my Friend, that He has a back-up plan for all of my mess-ups, and that I have a Friend in His Son, Jesus Christ as well, who makes it possible for us to look forward to being an eternal family forever and ever and ever.

 

Chili sauce

Chili sauce

Chili sauce is a family recipe: Lane grew up eating his mother’s recipe, who learned it from her mother. I didn’t grow up eating it, but my mom tasted it on a roast at our house and remembered that her mother made it when she was growing…

Welcome Fall, Aunt Becca style 🎃

Welcome Fall, Aunt Becca style 🎃

I mentioned that I got the idea for “welcome dinners” from my sister, Becca. I asked her if she would share some photos from her Welcome Fall dinners past. (Her welcome Fall dinners center around Halloween, because they do Halloween in a pièce de résistance…

Picture Biography series: a great way to taste history at any age

Picture Biography series: a great way to taste history at any age

Anna and I love to snuggle next to each other on the big chair in my room and read at night, whenever we get an early enough start. (That can be quite an accomplishment, starting early enough!)

With Peter homeschool for 2 periods this year (and studying US History), I got my hands on a few copies of books from a series called “Picture Biographies.” I REALLY like these books, because they give a good overview of a person’s life. Anyone, young or old, can get a person’s life in a nutshell.

Obviously the text is written for a younger audience than Anna and I are. But it’s a great jumping-off place for learning more about that person’s life. For example, Anna noticed that the book only had one page and very little information about his wife and children. So we went online immediately and found out more about Deborah Read and their three children.

Turns out that Deborah Read and Benjamin Franklin’s marriage and life was quite complicated, and that she raised an illegitimate child of Franklin’s. All of this was a great conversation that we got to have together as we read and discussed what we read.

That’s the kind of learning I love to do!

Check out the series at your library!

To see more book recommendations, click here.

Welcome Fall dinner

Welcome Fall dinner

We love to have “welcome dinners” in our home. The idea originated with my sister, Becca, who always has a “Welcome Fall” dinner each year.  I decided to do “Welcome ______” (insert name of month or season) dinners whenever I wanted because it was just…

The Spirit Catches You and You Fall Down: A Hmong Child, Her American Doctors, and the Collision of Two Cultures

The Spirit Catches You and You Fall Down: A Hmong Child, Her American Doctors, and the Collision of Two Cultures

Sarah texted me one day this week to share a sample of a book she had started to listen to on her commute each day to and from grad school. I listened and thought, “I have to listen to this book!” It’s not that I…

Why does the Lord want me to be healthy? An ongoing study

Why does the Lord want me to be healthy? An ongoing study

I’m a Beehive advisor now, and this just makes me so happy! One of the reasons I am so happy is that I can prepare lessons. I LOVE to learn and to teach, and having specific lessons which I am preparing gives me focus in my scripture study.

I just looked up the topic for the next lesson I will help with. (The young women in my class will actually teach most of the lesson, but I still prepare so that I can add insights as needed during the class.) “Why does the Lord want me to be healthy?” is the assigned topic.

Of course it is! When I am immersed in all kinds of questions about how to feed my daughter Rebecca so that she no longer has stomach pain or acid reflux and how to understand the Word of Wisdom better, I have this topic! I LOVE IT!

I have so much to add to that last paragraph, but let’s just skip to the verse I started out my studies with, and come back to that later. I opened my study journal and wrote down the question, “Why does the Lord want me to be healthy? I remembered a quote I had read in a cookbook earlier in the week, a man’s comment (the man is James SImmons, author of Original Fast Foodsabout how wheat is the staff of life and what that might mean. I found the quote and wrote it in my study journal. I wonder if what he said is correct. But it gives me a perspective I hadn’t considered, that a staff is an aid to walking, not the walking itself, so perhaps wheat is an aid to healthy living, not the complete foundation as I thought? Hmm.

Then on the next page, I decided that I’d start my study off with seeing simply what the Lord says about FOOD in the Book of Mormon. So I wrote that down.

So I opened up my study opened up my scriptures to Helaman 4 (where I left off yesterday) and read (starting in verse 1) through these two verses:

12 And it was because of the pride of their hearts, because of their exceeding riches, yea, it was because of their oppression to the poor, withholding their food from the hungry, withholding their clothing from the naked, and smiting their humble brethren upon the cheek, making a mock of that which was sacred, denying the spirit of prophecy and of revelation, murdering, plundering, lying, stealing, committing adultery, rising up in great contentions, and deserting away into the land of Nephi, among the Lamanites—

13 And because of this their great wickedness, and their boastings in their own strength, they were left in their own strength; therefore they did not prosper, but were afflicted and smitten, and driven before the Lamanites, until they had lost possession of almost all their lands.

I noticed that sharing food is an integral part of righteous living that contributes to our ability to prosper. Pride and selfishness (along with other sins), it appears, contributes to be deleterious to our health–note the phrase that I highlighted.

I’m being reminded of studies about eating together as a family (first priority) and also about the when I dropped off some food at the food shelter recently, and how happy I felt not only to contribute, but for those who worked to build that shelter, who staff it, who receive donations and prepare delicious meals for those in need, so that anyone who walks through their door won’t leave hungry. My mom taught me about giving, even after my and Lane’s wedding reception. We returned from our honeymoon and I asked if there was any ice cream left from it. She said no, that she had taken the leftover food to the Food and Care Coalition. I followed suit when we had leftovers from Nate and Hunter’s open house, and what a gift that was to me to remember my mother’s example.

I was only a few minutes into my study and already found a thought about food and a connection to why the Lord would want me to be healthy. It seems obvious to me that when I have prepared something healthy for myself and others to eat, that I not only can benefit from eating that food, but I can help others feel better, feel satisfied, not be hungry, have more energy to do good, etc. Don’t you notice that when you are “hangry” that it’s so much harder to want to be kind or do what you know is right? But when you’ve had a good meal, you are so much more disposed to be in good humor, to love others, etc?

This takes me back to the Beehive logo at the top of this post. Bees work hard to produce honey, “one of nature’s most beneficial foods.” With all the work that a single bee will go to in order to produce even the 1/12 a teaspoon that it produces in a lifetime*, I suppose I can work hard to study and learn more as well as keep working towards providing healthy food for myself, for my family, and for others. (I’m so grateful for the bees that polinated our flowers, vegetables, and grape vine this summer! I just walked out to my garden and saw the rain drops glistening on the flowering kale and grape leaves. I ate some of the most exquisite grapes. God sure knows how to make a grape! Wow!)

I’ll leave my post there. I’m excited for this new study topic!

* Also see https://www.apexbeecompany.com/honey-bee-facts/

What I regret, and what I don’t

What I regret, and what I don’t

We’ve had so many changes in our family recently: Sarah graduating from college, Nate marrying Hunter, Julia receiving her mission call, Sarah leaving for graduate school, and the other four children beginning a new school year–including one as a senior in high school. With these…