A House of Learning

Nate and Hunter were married in the Salt Lake Temple, 24 years after Lane and I were married there.

When I was young, my mother shared with our family one of her favorite scriptures:

119 aOrganize yourselves; prepare every needful thing; and establish a bhouse, even a house of prayer, a house of fasting, a house of faith, a house of learning, a house of glory, a house of order, a house of God;

Doctrine and Covenants 88:119

As I grew, I learned that this verse referred not only to the temple (Doctrine and Covenants section 88 contains many references to the Lord’s house, or the temple), but also to the home. “Only the home can compare with the temple in sacredness” (“Temple,” Bible Dictionary)

Creating a “house of learning” within a home takes much effort. In a house of learning, both the parents and the children learn from and teach one another. How have we tried to make our home a “house of learning?” (Basically, that’s what this entire Raising Amazing Children website is, but this page is a little summary of it.)

Love

Example

Family Prayer

Children learn so much when they are kneeling together in prayer: they know that we love them when we pray for them individually and by name; they know that their challenges are present in our minds. They know that we have faith in God enough to ask for His loving help. They learn that they can turn to Him in times of joy as well as in times of need. They discover that God hears our prayers when they find what is lost that we prayed to find. They learn that they matter when we take the time to kneel with them individually by the side of their bed as we teach them or listen to them to pray morning and night as little children.

Family Scripture Study

Early morning scripture study on cold winter mornings meant we brought our blankets with us to study.

We studied the scriptures as a family most often early in the morning before school and work. This meant we gathered at 6 or 6:30 am for 3 to 30 minutes, depending on the day, and read verses aloud and then discussed them. Sometimes we would watch a gospel video that was pertinent to the chapter or verse we were studying. When the children were young, we read from the Scripture Stories books as well.

Family Home Evening

We had fun creating “interesting” dishes with unusual food combinations on our FHE version of “Chopped.” Peter is spooning up some honey to go with the mustard needed in his team’s dish.

Come, Follow Me (Sundays)

Family Council

We took turns being secretary and taking notes during our weekly family councils. Lane would ask for each person to provide an agenda item (if they wanted to) that we would then discuss during family council.

Dinner

Dinner is a perfect opportunity to teach and learn together: we discuss current events, challenges or blessings from our day, share funny stories or jokes, and laugh together. Sometimes I read from a book or share a scripture or great quote or poem or family history story. We have even practiced spelling bee words at dinner!

Home Library

I have always liked the verse that preceeds verse 119:

118 And as all have not afaith, seek ye diligently and bteach one another words of cwisdom; yea, seek ye out of the best dbooks words of wisdom; seek learning, even by study and also by faith.

Doctrine and Covenants 88:118

So creating a home library where our family could “seek out of the best books” became a passion for me. You may have noticed that I post a LOT about books that I have discovered and added to our home library.

Temple

Rebecca on the grounds of the Salt Lake Temple in Salt Lake City, Utah.

Even before the children were old enough to go into the temple, we took them to the temple to help them feel the Spirit of the Lord. The temple grounds are special, sacred places. Sometimes we would go to the temple grounds to enjoy an after school “scripture snack”–where we sat on a picnic cloth, shared a scripture story and ate a fun little snack. The children liked those times.

It was especially wonderful to get to go to the temple each time a child turned 12. We tried to go as a family as close to each child’s twelth birthday as much as that was possible. (Now children can go to the temple as early as 11 years old!)

Julia went to the Provo City Center temple to receive her endowment before leaving on a mission to Croatia, Bosnia, and Serbia.

The most special times have been when our children were old enough to receive their endowment. Words cannot express how wonderful and special it is to be in the temple with a child during those times. I am so grateful that our children have lived the commandments and repented so that they were worthy to enter the temple and receive this great blessing.

Ordinances

Anna’s baptism day

We helped prepare each child for baptism when they were 8 years old. This helped them learn that we make covenants with Heavenly Father and Jesus and take upon ourselves the name of Christ. We prepared them through scripture study, family night lessons, conversations together, and through the experience of watching older siblings, cousins, and friends get baptized.

Church

We attended church together every week to partake of the sacrament–making a covenant again to follow Christ and take His name upon us–and help strenghten our testimonies and fellowship with other members of our church locally. We learned to served and to love others as we attended church on Sundays and participated in activities during the week.

Family Text Thread

Journaling

My first journal, a gift from my Bishop at the time of my baptism (age 8).

You can learn so much by keeping and reading journals. I learned a lot about my grandmother and about Lane’s mother and grandfather from their journals. These are an incredible source of wisdom borne of life experience! Conversation journals helped me learn more about what our children were thinking and feeling.

Homework Help

Lane helps Anna with math during the quarantine.

Newspaper and Magazines

Anna was reading the newspaper while eating breakfast.

Reading Aloud

Oh, how we read aloud. Lots and lots and lots. Minutes to hours to days. In the car, on the couch, in bed, on the floor, in the kitchen, anywhere, anytime.

Top right, clockwise: Julia, Peter, Eliza and Rebecca surround Lane as he reads aloud.
Sarah reading to Baby Rebecca
My mom and I read an engrossing novel together while waiting at an Irish dance competition.
I even read aloud to Lane while we were at the Salish Lodge for our 25th anniversary.

Service

Nate’s Eagle Project prepared him to many things, such as serving as a missionary, working in future jobs, and building things for his home.
Nate’s service in Peru was a very meaningful and educational time for both him and all of his family. We learned how grateful we are to be together as a family and how important missioary service is.

Media Library (Art, Music, Movies, Games, etc.)

Eliza said of these two Carl Larsson prints, “”They just have kind of the same feeling as when we gather for Sunday dinners as a family.”
(L to R) Eliza, Rebecca, Julia, Nate and Sarah smile with the baskets that their teacher made for them after their singing recital.

Wholesome Recreational Activities

Pete and Rebecca walk together down the street after a family movie night at the old movie theater in Heber City, UT.
Pete and Anna play “Seven Wonders” outside on a warm day.

Vacations

Traveling together has created special memories and helped our children learn about different places and cultures in the world. Most of our trips have been within driving distance, so we did a lot of reading aloud and listening to music and audio books on our trip.

Work

Together we have made meals, made beds, cleaned rooms, practiced musical instruments, applied for jobs and colleges and scholarships, cleaned kitchens, folded laundry, mended tears, cleaned up dog throw up, repaired fences, replaced flooring, painted walls, planned meals, sewed dresses and quilts and fabric napkins, planted and weeded gardens, prepared and reviewed and updated budgets, mowed lawns, dusted shelves, babysat, baked cakes and treats to sell and eat and share with others. We’ve also trained for races and cheered each other on at sporting events–in snow and rain and very cold wind.

Triathlons are a fun mulitsport race! Preparing for races both individually has helped us learn a new aspect of work: physical exercise! Lane has been the most amazing support to all of us in our work endeavors. He is an incredible worker and so quick to serve without complaint.

Homeschool

Julia was the baby when we had “Family Power Preschool.”

I wanted to homeschool our children after doing research on it while in college. However, we never felt like it was the right answer for our family with only a few exceptions. I did home preschool for some of our children and had some of our children stay home for a period or two during junior high. During the quarantine of 2020, we did online schooling. I loved this time!

In the end, I hope that my efforts to help create a house of learning will lead our children to be wise and quick to hearken to the Lord. The author of Proverbs wrote, “Wisdom is the principal thing; therefore get wisdom: and with all thy getting get understanding.” And Jacob wrote, “…To be learned is good if they hearken unto the counsels of God” (2 Nephi 9:29).

Above all else, I hope that our family will be covenant keepers and always putting Christ at the center of our lives. If we do, then I know that we will be able to gather in the Lord’s holy house, about which it was written in the verse which followed my mom’s favorite verse:

120 That your aincomings may be in the name of the Lord; that your outgoings may be in the name of the Lord; that all your salutations may be in the name of the Lord, with buplifted hands unto the Most High.

Doctrine and Covenants 88:120