3T: Create a routine
I just wanted to add one little thought I had this morning about routines.
Routines are the bones of my home organizational structure. Flexibility is what allows me to bend the shape of my routine when my day doesn’t go as planned, which is most of the time.
I know I have created a good routine when the structure is simple enough that it helps me to accomplish what is needed, even if my circumstances are changing.
I think about our bodies: Our bones change with us as we grow and shrink. We are still able to walk, run, bend, swim, etc., even when we are younger or older, shorter or taller, fatter or thinner, depending of course on whether our body is working properly. (If we are ill or have a physical disability or lack knowledge or resources, bones or no bones, we obviously can’t accomplish those same feats.)
So an effective routine is one that works with me through my changing daily needs and seasons of life. For example, one routine that I like to follow is my morning routine. I try to get up, make my bed, pray, study scriptures, exercise, shower, dress, brush hair and teeth, eat, and clean up after myself from eating. Then I am ready for the rest of the day. I seek to do what it takes to feed myself physically and spiritually and clean up before I move on. Sometimes I have more or less to work with resource-wise to accomplish these things: I may have more time or less time to get it done in, more or less clothing to access, more or less energy or sleep the night before to help us get it done, and more or less skill level on doing it, depending on my age and knowledge and other resources. So I have to adapt my expectations to my resources available, keeping in mind what I feel is the ideal and continually working towards that. Then I let go of what I can’t do so that I can have peace in doing my best.
But when my routine isn’t done completely or well, I don’t say that the routine isn’t important or worthwhile. That routine is a foundation to my physical, spiritual, emotional and even financial well-being. I think the movie Pursuit of Happyness is an example of that.
Here is a very comforting thought I have learned regarding routines, and it comes from Ralph Waldo Emerson and President Heber J. Grant: “That which we persist in doing becomes easier for us to do, not that the nature of the thing itself has changed, but that our ability to do is increased.” (The quote may not be exact, so check it elsewhere.)
So if I keep trying to do a routine or teach a routine, I get it. My skill level increases. In my experience, that the Lord eventually helps me remove the barriers I found in the past to not being able to accomplish a routine by providing the resources I desire in order to accomplish it.