RTW: Your children’s job lists are helping mine
(Lane and Anna set up our crib recently before we had some company for Women’s Conference. And no, we aren’t expecting. 🙂 )
Last night, I was visiting with some of our neighbors at dinner. We live amongst some of the best people on earth, and we are constantly learning from them. One of the younger moms in our group asked how we do jobs in our homes. I listened as one of my neighbors responded that she had selected certain jobs for her children to do and then rotates them weekly. She has made a list for the entire year that says who does which job which week. Then she said that she writes out job lists for each child to do on Saturday. Another neighbor asked her if they do music practicing on Saturdays, and she heartily confirmed that they do, because, she said, Saturdays don’t have the same time (after school to evening) obligations that other days do, so there is a little more time to really focus on practicing–even though Saturdays can get pretty crazy.
One of our neighbors remarked how thankful she is that the moms in our neighborhood have their children doing jobs, because it reinforces what they are trying to accomplish in their home as well, to teach their children to work. If one of our children knocks on someone else’s door, and that child can’t play because they haven’t finished their jobs yet, that sends a message to the one knocking that other children have jobs to do as well.
I pondered how we affect one another in a neighborhood, whether we consider it or not. The way we live our lives and organize our families affects those living near us, like ripples in a pond.
It’s another example of how the truth sets you free: when you know that how you are living privately has consequences for those around you, whether or not you want there to be consequences, then you can honestly evaluate yourself and ask whether your choices are helping or hurting those in your sphere of influence.
So back to jobs: I considered, while I listened, how we have tried so many different methods of trying to teach and get our children to work. All of them work to a degree, so in a way, HOW you organize your little work force isn’t as important as that you GIVE THEM WORK to do. We just have to KEEP TRYING, so that our children grow up being prepared to live self-reliantly and happily instead of overwhelmed by the day-to-day tasks that we have to do in order to live.
I am REALLY grateful to live where people care about their children and want them to succeed, and where they pray, study, work, and play with their children. Thank you! It makes all the difference in the world! (It sure makes my job easier.)
Happy Job List Making,