We love to give newly engaged brides-to-be or married couples gifts that have special meaning to our family:
I gave the book I Like You by S.S. Warburg to Lane on our first married anniversary. This little book is about two friends and all the reasons that they like each other. We read this book frequently when the children were little, and it is a great reminder of how important it is to daily tell each other WHY you like–and love–one another.
One tradition we have in our family is “T.L.’s” at the birthday dinner of someone’s birthday. Each person in the family tells the birthday person something that they love about that person. This has been one of our most special traditions over the years. It helps us all learn to speak kindly and lovingly to one another and how to look for the good in each other. “Speak your love and then speak it again,” said President Howard W. Hunter. We hope newly married couples will begin loving traditions such as this one.
The Quarreling Book by Charlotte Zolotow tells the story of what happens when a husband neglects to kiss his wife goodbye in the morning. It’s a cute reminded of the importance of showing and returning affection, as well as how simple acts of kindness build love instead of lighting sparks of contention. “A soft answer turneth away wrath,” the write of Proverbs taught (Proverbs 15:1). Kisses can do the same!
We give a little man and woman cookie cutter to remind couples of the importance of the differences between men and women, and that the differences are divine and that marriage between a man and a woman is “ordained of God.” The Family: A Proclamation to the World tells us this and reminds us of how we work together as a partnership to do God’s work. If we ever get frustrated by those differences between genders, just read that proclamation and bake cookies together! We love making Finnish Gingerbread cookies with those cookie cutters at Christmastime.